Tuesday, March 23, 2010

Bullies

Sitting at McDonalds Playland watching my daughter deal with a little
bully boy. I am trying to teach her to deal with him. I find myself at
a loss unless I tell her to just beat him up, which then makes her the
bully.

So, how do you teach your kids to deal with bullies without resorting
to violence?

4 comments:

Mark said...

I don't know but when you find out, please let me know.
m.

Albie said...

same way we do.
logic. calm reasoned responses, and when that's not possible, walk away.

if something you have a fair claim to is threatened, then firmly standing up to a bully is effective. But violence isn't necessary. Just ask some of the greatest civil rights leaders of the 20th century.

Most bullies want your response. When they don't get one, they move on.

Consider these helpful suggestions:
(I love Teaching Tolerance.org, sponsored by the southern poverty law center...)
http://www.tolerance.org/search/apachesolr_search/bullies

Jen said...

It is so hard. Watching anything unjust happen to your kids is painful. I will say that everything that has happened with both our girls has made them stronger, and that is about the best you can hope for. I always tell them to walk away, and to keep their friends close and their enemies closer. You never know what they're going to do. They are allowed to defend themselves but never strike out.

Jen said...

It is so hard. Watching anything unjust happen to your kids is painful. I will say that everything that has happened with both our girls has made them stronger, and that is about the best you can hope for. I always tell them to walk away, and to keep their friends close and their enemies closer. You never know what they're going to do. They are allowed to defend themselves but never strike out.